I know Tee looks younger than his 30 years and I always joke that when I first met him I didn’t know if he was 17 or 40. What never crossed my mind, until a recent conversation, is that some people really think he is 17 and see me as a sexpat taking advantage of him!
According to Urban Dictionary a sexpat is “one who participates in tourism with the express intention of having sex. “
Tee and I were getting massages the other day on Koh Tao when his masseuse jokingly asked him how old he was and questioned if us being together was legal.* At the time I laughed it off because people often question our relationship, though for other reasons, but later I thought about all the times Tee has mentioned people staring hard at us and after thinking about it even more I realized that by wearing a wedding ring, while Tee does not, only adds to the assumption that I am just having a little extra fun on my vacation.
I am definitely disturbed that some people view me as a sexpat, but you know what they say about assumptions.
*This all was presented in such a joking manner I wonder if it would have even made a difference if it wasn’t legal.